Stop personalising your child’s behaviour for the wrong reasons. Learn the art of negotiating for things that really matter and let go of what doesn’t.
Looking back at times, when you thought of yourself as a parent, didn’t you visualize parenting in the most idealistic fashion? Now do you realize what a thinking trap you created for yourself? Come to think of it, when there is no ‘ideal parent’; how on the earth will you find an ‘ideal child’?
Ironically human beings never give up; we keep trying persistently, don’t we?
It’s natural to feel responsible for your child’s behavior; because you know others are judging you by the way your child acts. Beware; taking your child’s behavior personally can cause you to discipline him for the wrong reasons. Have you ever yelled a little more forcefully because you were embarrassed by your child?
It all boils down to a power and control struggle
Parents invest unnecessary energy to correct things that don’t really matter. They lecture, scold and yell with every misstep that the child gets immune to direction. How does it matter if your child insists on wearing a yellow shirt with a green trouser to his friend’s house or if your daughter prefers to have idlis with tomato ketchup?
Too many limits imposed on the child leads to frustrations and further to act of defiance. The next time you personalize your child’s misbehavior as being a bad parent watch out. It all boils down to a power and control struggle. The more you give into inconsequential acts, the more kids will listen to the things that matter! Learn the art of negotiating for things that really matter and let go of what doesn’t.